Baggage.

While I am really into the new guy and am excited about the prospect of being in a happy and serious relationship for the first time in 3 years - I have some baggage. As one can imagine, a lot of "baggage" can accumulate in one's life as a single 20 something over the course of 3 years.

There are a few unresolved minor heart breaks (you know, the ones that never got "closure"), there are those hot out of towners that you hook up with just when they are in town, and there are those guys, like East 4th, who are hot, amazing in bed, and who text at random moments (you know, those moments when you are feeling down and need a guy to treat you like a goddess for a few hours, cuddle and send you on your way). Well last night I was hanging out with BL and I got a text from East 4th inquiring about my Mardi Gras plans. Little does he know that my Mardi Gras plans included making dinner with BL, watching Flight of the Conchords and having hours of steamy new relationship sex. Can anyone fill me in on the correct response for such a text? I chose to ignore because I don't feel like I owe him anything. I also didn't want BL to wonder who I was secretly texting.

Anyways, it made me briefly think of all the randoms in my life and what I would be giving up as a non-single lady. I suddenly realized that I wouldn't be missing much at all. This is how I know that I'm definitely ready for a realtionship with this guy. I'm just unsure of how to tie up all of the loose ends. Am I expected to send out a mass text announcing my relationship? Or perhaps I should just delete the numbers entirely from my phone. I'm not worried about temptation, I'm just worried about the bad chi that having all of that baggage around could cause. I'm also worried about having to explain late night texts/phone calls. That could be awkward. Oh, my life as a recovering dating disaster/whore.

♥ Miss Fabulous

Laziness.

This is the reason why I have failed to blog lately. Laziness. I apologize for the delay. Also, my dating life has become quite boring now that I'm regularly dating BL. We are pretty much a couple. My first potential relationship in 3 years is very scary! BUT, it's also exciting and fun all at the same time.

Here are some updates:
V-day: BL picked me up, insisted on coming up to get me and brought me roses and a bottle of champagne. Then we went to Bella's house for a pre-dinner gathering. Then, off to dinner at Touch with about 8 other people. The food was amazing! BL got on famously with my friends and their dates. It was a great time. Then home to drink the champagne and partake in other v-day related festivities. I have to tell you that the sex with BL is amazing. This is refreshing especially after my last few experiences. I also really feel like we have a connection and that makes it more passionate and fun.

Pres Day: Since I'm a government employee I was off this past Monday. BL is a very busy trial lawyer so he was not supposed to be off but decided to play hooky and spend the day with me anyways. It was great. We had lunch, got coffee, walked at edgewater and went book shopping like the nerdy lawyers we are. Don't we sound like a couple?

Yesterday I had birthday sushi with a bunch of friends and I invited him but he's been working late all week. Instead of just declining he invited me to stop by his office beforehand so he could show me around and so we could grab a quick cup of coffee. I just think it's so nice of him to try to make time for me even if it's brief. He also did this last Friday when I had evening plans with the girls but found myself having to file a motion at the Justice Center downtown in the afternoon. He made a point of escaping from the office to grab a quick coffee with me. I think it's just cute.

So I think things are looking up in the relationship department. I may, in the near future, need to change the whole premise of the blog. Recovered dating disaster attempts stable, normal relationship? Sounds interesting enough.

♥ Miss Fabulous

Boyfriend material?

Happy news to report! I got a new laptop! Admittedly, I am typing this at work right now, but it's still nice to have something other than my iPhone at home to access the web. It's been a long time since I've been without a home computer for 2 weeks. Anyways, I got the new aluminum 13" macbook and I ♥ it so far!

Ok, so now for the good stuff. It seems like 2 out of the 3 match.com potentials have officially fizzled out. Mr. Officer has been leaving me random facebook messages but no longer texts or calls. Weird. Also, MBA/CPA guy sent me an email on Saturday about possibly meeting up. An email? Honestly? On the weekend? Next.

Now, BL on the other hand - different story. Things are going well - very well - so well that it's almost scary. He may in fact be boyfriend material.

Friday - he made me dinner. It was really good. Then we went to a party hosted by his co-worker and I got to meet the partners in his firm and a bunch of people. It was fun. Saturday, I had girls night and he lives close to downtown so he offered a ride home if I needed. He was out at dinner with a friend and then went home to do some work. (The life of a Plaintiff's lawyer.) I had planned on getting a cab but I got way more drunk than expected at map and liquid and the thought of finding a cab at 2am was daunting. So I called him. When I got into his car he told me it was like I was drugged. I was fine at first and then I was just out of it. He had to pull over so I could puke out the door and he took me home and put me to bed where I puked on myself again so he put me in the tub and changed my sheets and put me back in bed. If that's not all he made me breakfast in the morning and stayed with me until 1:30 the next afternoon to make sure I was ok. Classy. I was soooo embarassed! Believe it or not I never get that sloppy drunk! I think I just got excited b/c it was the first time in awhile many of my law girls were out.

For the record when I say I'm not sure how I got so drunk I mean it. I only spent $10 and my friend "Bella" who I thought was buying my drinks only spent $10.

Anyways, what a great guy. I'm starting to really like him and this weekend he pretty much functioned as a bf. This is very scary to me b/c it's been 3 years since I've had a real bf. I also have only been seeing BL for a couple weeks now. I told him I like to take things slowly. I guess we'll just see how things go. The girls and I are planning a group Valentine's date at Momocho for couples and singles alike. I invited BL and he seemed pretty excited about it.

I really just wish there was a crystal ball for relationships that would let you know in advance if it was going to end in disaster. Wouldn't that make life oh-so-easier?

♥ Miss Fabulous

More updates!

I really hate to be so brief but I am crazy busy at work right now. I'm going laptop shopping Friday but I can't keep ya'll in suspense until then now can I? My love life in a nutshell:

Mr. Officer: Not much to report. This is very disappointing. Nothing but random meaningless texts all weekend. The last text I received at 2:48 am early Sunday morning said [Miss Fabulous]! so I wrote back [Mr. Officer]! first thing in the morning when I woke up. Not sure what that meant so I sent him a text last night that simply read, "You don't call me anymore = :(". He called me immediately. He informed me that "phone devices work both ways." Is he right? Should I have called him? I mean we've only hung out twice. I think the ball is still in his court as far as phone calling goes, ESPECIALLY since he is the one with the crazy sleep/work schedule. I've done my part by responding to texts and sending him a good luck text for his Friday soccer game. I am really just thinking the maturity level is not there. Boo.

BL: Lolita on Saturday was amazing. The food was great and I think we really had a good time. We went to Market Ave after for another glass and not only would he not let me pay for a thing but he insisted on dropping me off and picking me up at the door so I wouldn't have to walk in the snowy cold as there was no valet at Market Ave. Now this is where it gets interesting.... he has not only invited me to a party on Friday where several of his co-workers and partners from his firm will be (and they are "so excited" to meet me) but he has invited me to lunch on President's Day b/c I told him I was off of work. Planning dates two weeks in advance is a bit scary to someone who's last situation revolved around last minute dates and overall lack of enthusiasm. Maybe it's something I just need to get used to.

Luke: No, don't worry, you haven't missed anything. Luke is not a love interest (yet) but rather the new Br♥mantical interest of Brody Jenner. Yes, I predicted it. I'm so happy he won. I know it means absolutely nothing but I can't help but feel proud that I actually predicted a reality TV win from the get go. I think this was the first ever. In case you missed last night's season finale of Br♥mance, Andy at Wild ARS Chase always comes through with a great play by play.


♥ Miss Fabulous